This explains it, top to bottom:
“This isnâ€™t about mutual tolerance because thereâ€™s nothing mutual about it. If we agree to disagree on this issue, you walk away a full member of this society and I donâ€™t. There is no â€œlive and let liveâ€ on this issue because Dan Cathy is spending millions to very specifically NOT let me live. Iâ€™m not trying to do that to him.”
And really, it’s helpful to see what kind of people will go out of their way to support bigotry. Â It’s more than one might guess, nevermind might hope.
I’ve never heard of the upstairs lounge fire.
FWIW, gay marriage per se is not much of an issue for me. Instead, as the author discusses, marriage is a proxy for family for many secular privileges and responsibilities. So from the perspective that gay men and women — and everyone else for that matter — should have equal access to these privileges and responsibilities, I fully support gay marriage.